What would u do if your SO came out bi/pansexual

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So my wife came out bi after 10 years together. Im not sure she really realized it herself until recently because of her homophobic upbringing (she's in therapy now for her childhood abuse). She seems slightly uncomfortable or unsure what to do at this point since we're married and she doesn't want anyone else but this seems like a big revelation for her.

I know she loves me and wants only me but im not sure how to show my support?

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I’m bi and have a husband. He’s the love of my life. However I still like women too. My husband understands and I wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize my marriage but I’ve liked girls since I was 11. He knows and we have no issues. We both admire a pretty woman if we see one and keep it moving. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Thank him for telling me and ask how I can support him

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I think since she’s just now discovering it, she will have a bit of “hyperfocus” on her sexuality for a while. She might want to talk about it a lot at first. 
I’m a bi/pan woman in a monogamous relationship with a man and for the most part it doesn’t ever really come up in my daily life. One way I kind of “acknowledge” it is just being open with my partner and pointing out women I see that are attractive. Like, if we’re out to lunch and the waitress is cute one of us will say so. He likes this too because he doesn’t have to worry about me getting mad at him for looking at a nice butt as a girl walks by or whatever bc he can just be like “damn did you see that” and I’ll be like “yeah that was nice” 
Maybe a little tmi, but we also sometimes watch porn together. Might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I think it’s a nice bonding thing

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As long as she wants you n has no interest in engaging in another relationship than id say thanks for being open with me. 
Are you worried she might want to explore that side of her?

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I don’t see an issue with it. I mean we’re married so it’s not like they would be out looking for people, right? Regardless I wouldn’t shun them or anything for it.

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Ask what I can do to support him.

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Just be there to listen if she needs to vent or someone to help sort out her feelings by talking about them, listen to her stories and memories if she needs to sort through and reframe them in her mind. Be by her side and step in to defend her if anyone tries to put her down (sounds like her family might). And accept her fully as she is, and let her know that you do. 
I'm bisexual and happily married to a man. We talked about a threesome at one point (he wanted it too 😅) but it seemed more trouble than it's worth to us. Other than that, we're just a normal couple 🙂

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I'm bisexual and plan to marry my fiance soon (yes he's a guy) and he knows how I feel about women. It doesn't cause problems between us because he knows I've made my choice of human. If you're wanting to show support for her and as long as it doesn't cross any boundaries set between the two of you let her have her time to process it. This isn't necessarily something that's gonna make her change everything she just has to come to her own inner understanding of how she feels and move forward with it.

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Just curious, what’s a pansexual?

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Well , I only want to be with one person and want my partner to only want to be with me as well so as long as they plan to stay faithful I wouldn’t care. And just be open to learning and try to be understand and accepting.  Or decide if you can’t accept it .

What would u do if your SO came out bi/pansexual

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