Being rejected by my BIO DAD
Suuuuuuper long post ahead.
Where do I start? This is going to be the longest post ever. There are so many parts, names (that will be changed for privacy), so many emotions I’ve felt. All of this occurred over a 2 month period. From April 16th - today, June 17th.
I’m 19, I’ll be 20 in December.
Let me give y’all a backstory: when my mom was young she got pregnant with me and it was between 2 guys of who is my father. We will call them good guy #1 and bad guy #2. I’m March this year, me and good guy #1 went to do a paternity test and it came back 0% paternity, so that left bad guy #2 to be my father. (Now some of you may think well “what if your mom lied to you about who bad guy #2 is” well she didn’t and throughout this post I’ll explain how I found out and have proof he is my father)
Let me preface before I start.😣🥴 there’s just SO MUCH INFORMATION!
Me and good guy #1 have spoken briefly between the years. He was my moms boyfriend at the time she got pregnant with me. After I had ordered a 23 & me kit and had sent my sample in (which took weeks to get my results) he said “I’ll pay for us to get a real DNA paternity test done” so, we went and did it. Those results took a while to get also. I got those results. It was me, him, and my mom
Who went in and all got tested. It showed as the result 0% paternity. I was very crushed because I was hoping he was my father, because he obviously cared and was very kind and genuinely was interested in finding out if he was my father or not. So obviously that leaves bad guy #2 to be my father. After we got the 0% paternity results, a few weeks later I got my 23 & me results.
Let’s start with the date of April 16th. I was determined that my “father” probably has done a 23 & me DNA kit before, so I ordered one and waited for my results. I got them on April 16th. As soon as I got the “your results are ready” notification I went to the app. Immediately I found my way to the relatives list. It will list your relatives with their names and “mother, father, brother, sister, 1st cousin aunt uncle” y’all get it. I didn’t see father. Or any other relatives with his last name. After looking through and messaging people the first person I found related to his was a guy my age. He is my dads cousin. So that confirmed I am related to him. My father is 1/4 kids. 3 boys 1 girl. Now y’all can say “well what if your mom slept with one of his brothers” well I know she didn’t she wouldn’t lie to me. Even though I don’t have any DNA paternity results that says he is my father, he is. He knows it and I know it.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you. I thought about posting this to my personal Facebook, but I’m afraid of what feedback I might get. Thank you for listening. The only people who know about this situation (besides my dad and his wife of course) is me, my mom, and grandma. None of my friends or anything.
Let me just try to throw all this info into a short post.
Bad guy #2 IS my dad. I message his brother on Facebook along the lines of “I believe your brother is my dad and I’m your niece” well we chat a bit, not interested in it. Ok. I find his sister. Message her (it was bad timing and I didn’t know she had a death the day before) she seemed interested. Said she would get back to me when things calm down. Ok. Gets back to me, says let’s meet next week. No reply yet.
I kept thinking over and over about messaging his wife. (Him and his wife weren’t together when he got my mom pregnant, they married like 9 years later)
So I messaged her TODAY JUNE 17th.. I tell her, “I message his brother and sister, I’m his daughter, I don’t want a relationship at all I just want to hear from him and what he has to say”
She says basically
“It’s my Husbands business and I will let him handle it how he sees fit. I am stepping away from the situation. Please don’t contact me again”
Obviously I was hurt. And still am.
Well, ma’am, if I was married and MY HUSBAND of 11 years got a message from someone saying they think he is their dad, I would be all up in his business and be curious.
Basically she doesn’t care and he doesn’t either he won’t speak to me, he’s a POS! Dead beat dad!
I’m going to move on and live my wonderful life and I’m very blessed and loved by my mom & family. And I don’t need him!
Did I mention he literally has 5 kids?? Well 6 including me, 1st born.
If y’all have any questions feel free to ask, and I’m sorry if there is any confusion.
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