It’s like 8 am here and it’s already been a shit show. Let me start by explaining my husband. He’s so sweet and bent over backwards for me. He sucks when it comes to assuming the worst intentions of others. To put into perspective, I have been on modified bedrest for two weeks now because my heart is acting up. Im 20 weeks pregnant with my third. I pass out, get dizzy and struggle catching my breath. I have a cardiologist appointment in July. Lately I’ve been having THE WORST pains across my entire stomach. They don’t know what’s wrong and I have an ultrasound on Wednesday (trying to avoid emergency room) we have an autistic nonverbal 3 yr old and a 7 year old boy.

Needless to say, he got mad at me for walking around the street to get out of the house. “It’s an unnecessary risk right now.” Fine, you’re right…

Today asked what his plans were and he said “a day to myself remember?” I said yes where are you off to? He looked at me funny and goes “no, here. A day to myself here.”

Now we have a small house so I said “like just closing the door to our room and chilling today?” He got upset and goes “no! I’ve told you before I want the house to myself.” Dude… you want me to take 2 kids out and about all day knowing the 3 yrs old needs to be carried most public places and I’m going to be on my feet all day chasing them?! You don’t even want me walking around the street alone?

He groaned and goes “fine never mind. I knew it was too much to ask for one day.” Then made a comment about how he does things for me even if they inconvenience him.

Yes we had planned BEFORE all this that he could do whatever he wanted and I would accommodate, but things went haywire. I feel guilty but I can’t safely do what he’s asking. I told him to go back to bed and at least sleep in, which he did.

Now let’s add in-law drama…

My MIL asked us for dinner and I said he wanted a day to himself. She kept pushing “well just ask him, I will make some potato salad if he does!” (No its not his favorite food)

I said to ask him. He was all weird about it and rightfully so, we suggested next weekend but she is pushing today for some reason and we can’t figure out why. We asked if it was just us and she said no it’s his sister too. Now my husband makes a face and said “why is she pushing all of her kids to come visit her on fathers Day when Dad and her are split (have been since he was 2) doesn’t she want us to hang out with HIM on Father’s Day?”

Another perspective to add: his dad is the jealous type. If we hang out with my family “too much” or don’t see him enough, he stops talking to us and gets angry because “we aren’t making enough of an effort to have him in our lives”

So I tell my husband maybe we shouldn’t go because it seems like it’s asking for more drama and he wanted the day to himself anyway… he is hesitant but still going to go. I said okay. If that’s what you want then we will but I’m nervous.