Would you be upset?

Question

I have a 1 year old daughter.  My family lives close by and my mom planned for us to come over and swim and BBQ on the 4th of July.  My sister has a 17 month old and a 3 year old, and she got sick with a bad cold the week leading up to it.  Her kids also got sick.  When the 4th came, my sister stayed home with her youngest and sent her 3 year old to my parents house because he wanted to swim. I told them all that if he is still sick, we don't want to come because I don't want us to get sick.  Both my mom and my sister told me that he's not sick anymore, that he's totally fine.  That I'd be overreacting if we didn't come.  We went and he was sneezing, coughing, and snotting all over the place (very obviously still quite sick).  We didn't stay long, but now my entire family (including my 1 year old) is sick.  For the record, it's just a cold - my sister tested for covid and it was negative.  I told my mom we are now all sick because we came over and she tried to tell me that it's not from that, it's from allergies, so I just stopped talking to her about it.
I get that sickness happens. We'll get over it. What I'm upset about is that both my mom and my sister straight up lied to me to get us to come over, resulting in my daughter getting sick.  I feel like they put the happiness of my 3 year old nephew over the health of my 1 year old daughter and I'm pissed about it. Would this upset you?
For the record, we left after we ate (my mom put food down in front of us right as we got there) and I don't have a problem with my nephew being there, just that we were told he was well when he wasn't.

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Yes, I would be upset. When my first son was very little, my mom invited us over. My sister and her daughter were living there and her daughter was sick. They claimed it was allergies when I asked so I believed them. Then my son ended up sick. So I told them to always let me know when her kids are sick, even if they claim it is just allergies. That was four years ago and they've been good about it ever since. 
Last month, my BIL came by with his son, who was coughing constantly. They also claimed allergies. When their kids were little, they made my husband put on hand sanitizer any time he held/touched them so I thought if they're like that, surely they wouldn't lie. 
Well, 12 hours later my 2 y/o with autism got a fever. Next day, the same cough. Then me, my 11 m/o, and my 4 y/o were all running a fever, coughing, and had runny noses. I was fucking pissed. My baby screamed all night because he was too stuffy to take a pacifier. I lost my sense of smell and taste. I was seeing red by that point and hoping it was not Covid (I get sinus infections every year and lost my sense of smell one time with one of them.) Thankfully, my kids and I tested negative for Covid. But I made my husband tell his brother to never bring the children by if they are sick or have ""allergies"". I was even more livid than I was with my mother and sister because that could have easily been Covid they gave us.

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I think your sister shouldn't have had your  nephew go over there knowing he was sick, just a respect thing, being sick is not fun! Yeah I'd be mad yeah kids get sick but if preventing other from getting sick mean staying home why not do it.

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i would be upset that they lied about it but also in the same token, its not your really your home to determine who can come over and who cant. when you saw he was sick, you couldve left or kept your distance. or just not gone to the BBQ at all.

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I’d be upset!

Would you be upset?

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