BAD dry scalp! :(

this is something i’ve struggled with for years now, i remember being super young and my scalp would be so dry and itchy that i would scratch it until i bled.

i’ve tried all kinds of things, coconut oil, tea tree, and basically anything my hairdresser told me i should do. my scalp gets super itchy and flakey even right after i wash it. i only wash my hair every other day, and my hair itself is naturally super dry and curly. can someone please help me out? it impacts my mental health daily and makes me feel so ugly :(