We have been together almost 18 years and we are both 31 years old and we have 2 kids and always talked about 3-4 kids max, we had our first child when we were 17 years old and then our 2nd at 24 years old and when our son was 5 months old my husband out of the blue said I’m getting a vasectomy without really talking about it and made the appointment and that and within a 2 week span he got out done I told him I wasn’t for it and he can find his own way there and home cuz I wasn’t happy about it and he wouldn’t answer me really on why out of no where he wanted one he just would say cuz I’m done with kids and when I wells asl what happen to 3-4 kids he said no I never wanted that and I was just dreaming that all up and he always likes to make like dumb comments on if only I didn’t get fix you could be pregnant right now knowing how much I wanted 3 kids minimum.

I know his body his choice but when you’re in a relationship married or not and for the last 18 years we have talked about 3 to 4 kids and only five months after having our second he tells me “I’m getting vasectomy and that you need to come to all my appointments with me and act like you want it to” because doctors wants to make sure the partner is for it too….I want to one appointment and sat in the waiting room because I was not going back there with him because he knew I did not want him to get a vasectomy I told him I was willing to stay on birth control longer until we as a couple made the decision.