Leaving baby with other people

Anyone else struggle leaving their baby with other people?

I’m okay when it’s my mum or my husband.

But my mil… nope it makes me so anxious. And she loves him so much to the point she’s like obsessed with him. And always asks to have him and lives close to us so she’s the easiest option. But she just does things that make me uncomfortable.

For one she always kisses him when I say no too so I bet if she was alone she would kiss him.

And then she invites her friends over to come see him and cuddle him.

And she put him in the bouncer and puts him up on the couch or on the table while in the bouncer (she put a pillow under the legs the other week while on the table to prop it up at a different angle 😰) and I keep saying it’s so unsafe if he falls out he will die and she’s like I’m watching him but literallly the other day she walked away from him and left him in it on the couch. And he can bounce and move around in the bouncer!

And now my fil has taken up smoking again and is smoking in their bedroom which has no doors on it just curtains.

My husband keeps trying to book them in for babysitting but honestly I just want to cancel my plans because it makes me to anxious and I can’t ask mum because it’s a massive issue if my mum gets him all the time and they don’t 🙃