Soon to be sister in law wants a big wedding butttttttt it’s her second marriage

Okay so my brother in engaged to my soon to be sister inlaw

This is her second marriage. Her first marriage was when she was 8 months pregnant. It didn’t last long and they are now divorced

So my brother and soon to be sils original plan was to just have a small wedding, a little ceremony with family and maybe a couple friends, no bridal party no fancy cake just very small and I was like oh okay that’s nice

So me and her took our daughters to the beach today and I asked if they had a date picked out, and she got really upset almost In tears that she’s upset she isn’t having the wedding she wants. She doesn’t want this big huge wedding but she wants a fairly decent size wedding, all her family all her friends, a big cake, a beautiful dress, a bridal party, a photographer, all that. Her first wedding was small, ata court house, no reception no celebration no bridal shower leading up to it ( bc she was so pregnant she just had a baby shower) she didn’t feel beautiful, she didn’t even really want to get married especially being so pregnant but had pressure from her parents.

So I’m like what the fuck, let’s do it then. Like have the whole shabang, have the big wedding get the dress of your dreams get the 10 tier cake, get your little girl a flower girl dress, like I’ll plan the bachelorette party right now where we can go get drunk on the beach and get some strippers or whatever like have the dream wedding.

The problem is- her older sister just got engaged- like literally a month before she did and the sister isn’t happy and made it very clear to my soon to be SIL that she already had her “moment” and she wants this to be “ her” time. And I’m like what the fuck who cares like everyone deserves their special day! The sister is basically all like this is my first wedding, you already had one, having another one is so tacky because it wasn’t that long ago (she was only married a short time completely irrelevant) and even tho she didn’t have a “real wedding” family still sent gifts (cash).

I am so sad for my SIL. I know some people don’t care about having a nice wedding and all of that but I know it really would mean so much to her. I am super close to her she’s literally my best fried and I would love for her to have what she wants and be a beautiful bride.

So really the point of this post is that I am hoping some people will agree with me so I can show her like hell yes girl look how many people agree you should have the wedding you want!