Do I continue?

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(I’m not the type to be butt-hurt over truthful comments lol so I’m asking don’t sugar coat) 
I’ve been TTC for over a year now, while TTC Ive been attending school & since I wasn’t getting pregnant I’ve decided to re-enroll myself back in to keep my mind off of TTC.. I was told I need to pay up 10k or I won’t be able to attend (NO IM NOT ASKING FOR HANDOUTS) & now it has me really wondering if continuing trying for a baby would be ideal right now.. having an education is extremely important to me so I can live comfortably & all in all give my future children the best life possible. My fiancé has offered to pay half but so many what ifs are sitting in the back of my head right now. 
what if we get pregnant & now here i am in school, pregnant, all while trying to pay off for school. 
I want nothing more in this world than to be a mother & my fiancé wants that for me, for US! But i’m so conflicted. Please help me.
Do I put school off at the moment & focus on TTC 
or do I carry the money burden all while having to worry about TTC

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Honestly, I don't think anyone is financially ready for a baby even if you're financially secure. My husband and I have a very large nest egg for our age and no debt, yet I'm still worried about finances. 
I personally would not stop ttc. In my 5 yrs ttc, I had 3 loss, 3 failed iui, a failed ivf, and finally my second ivf has worked so far. Really, life throws so many curveball.

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Personally I would finish school before TTC. My mom always said her one regret was not finishing her degree before having kids, it was just too damn hard to go back to school after she had my sister. Not saying it’s impossible, but when you consider the time, money, studying, etc., it’s better to get your schooling done first.

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I'd say keep up with both. It could take a while to get pregnant. School could come and go, debt can always happen, even with other life stuff and you might not be pregnant after it all. Or you could get pregnant right away and do school and motherhood at the same time.  I mean as women we're pretty powerful beings, so I'd give it a shot. At least try and see how your body and mind feel after a semester or 2. Try not to stress about either. If you stress about one you might not do well in the other, that goes both ways ya know. Life is short. If I could do it again I'd keep up with school and motherhood. I went back again after having my 4th kid and it was so empowering, crazy, motivating, and just a good thing. Stress and all lol. It never works the same as it does for someone else, try to just trust yourself and what you think you can handle.

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I would definitely stop ttc to focus on school for a bit. I decided not to ttc for a while, then did school for a bit then stopped to ttc. Then I went to school with a 1.5 year old and then pregnant (got pregnant when I was gonna finish) so it was 50/50 difficulties. I wasn’t worried-still am not- about paying though. I know we’ll be fine. Now with 2 kids, I’m in school and not ttc until September

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Honestly, I don't think anyone is financially ready for a baby even if you're financially secure. My husband and I have a very large nest egg for our age and no debt, yet I'm still worried about finances. 
I personally would not stop ttc. In my 5 yrs ttc, I had 3 loss, 3 failed iui, a failed ivf, and finally my second ivf has worked so far. Really, life throws so many curveball.

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For Anne

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I found out I was pregnant with my first a few weeks after I started grad school (June 2018). Had that baby (March 2019), continued grad school. Got pregnant again. Graduated may 2020 had #2 in July 2020. You just make it work. I was also working full time during all of that. I knew school was important so despite being exhausted, I did it

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I would put school off and focus on trying to conceive, but that’s just my two cents after getting a masters degree and still not being able to find a job. Now i have a masters degree with no job, 100,00 in debt, and I’m pregnant! (Thankfully my fiancé supports me) Also, it’s easier to conceive when you’re younger and you’ll have a lower risk pregnancy.

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