Workload

Super long but basically comes down to my husband won't get a job but continuously says he will.

My husband has been out of work since February of 2020 when the Pandemic hit he was working retail and we had an infant son and felt he should step back from work and take time off. He has yet to go back. Before this retail job he was in the USMC when I met him working a highly skilled MOS (many of his former unit work jobs earning 100k plus because of the training they recieved in the Corps). I have worked in childcare for the last decade and have 2 degrees in the field, however when we were pregnant with my first (and even before that) we had discussed and agreed that I would be a SAHM until our children reached the age they could attend school. When my husband quit his job in Feb we just lived off savings for a while until I eventually went back to work in childcare and left our 10 month old home with dad. It wasn't my dream, but I made the sacrifice for our family because he had no interest in returning to work. I cut him slack (its been over a year now) but we recently found out I am pregnant with our second after making an impulsive move to Southern California. Because of this, I recently started a job and won't qualify for any FMLA or time off for my pregnancy. This scares the shit out of me because I feel like I will be forced to keep working and leave my infant at home with him... now I'm all for equality but young infants need their mothers a little more than their fathers (I am still breastfeeding our 22 month old which is why I have this opinion). I have tried to talk to my husband about getting a job but it has always been "I will". THEN WHEN? He says he will get a job... but ever job I suggest he acts like he is interested in it for a week and then comes at me with reasons why it won't work. Im so frustrated with him because he is at home living out my dream as the stay at home parent (which he rarely seems to enjoy) while I am busting my ass taking care of other peoples children all day. Whenever I bring this conversation up he shuts down and just says I make him feel like shit because he has dissapointed me. I feel like I am drowning in responsibility while he just gets to fuck off all day and sit my son in front of the TV while he plays computer games. How do I get him to step up? I am at the end of my rope. I have always had a job since the day I turned 16 with the exception of 10 months after my son, I have a great work ethic and work hard and sometimes I feel like he knows that I will just step up and he doesn't have to.