Is this PPD?

Question

My daughter is 3 weeks old. And I have a 22 month old. Lately I’ve been feeling very sad I guess or angry. I’ve always been very patient with my toddler and lately I just yell at her or spank her when she doesn’t listen without being patient. I feel like a horrible mom. Today I raised my voice to my newborn because she hasn’t stopped screaming then I felt bad. I have no help. My husband is in the military so he leaves early morning and doesn’t return until evening and no family available. I don’t want to hurt myself or my children but I do feel like I’m a bad mom right now and it makes me so upset and disappointed in myself. I love my kids so much and feel horrible for treating them this way.

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As all mothers of two will know exactly what you are going threw when I had my second child my first daughter was the age of 6 yo so I never had that kinda of experience with a toddler and newborn but I have friends who have gone threw the same issue as u are, it's very overwhelming when bring a second baby into the mix with a toddler it can take a toll on ur body with just giving birth, no sleep, frustration, no help from family or friends can really overwhelm you to frustration overload. The best advice I can give u is to keep ur head up don't crumble underpresur put some music on to clam ur self that always worked for me when I would get frustrated with my kids I hope this helps u .

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Being more angry can be a symptom of postpartum depression. This is a good website with more info: https://www.postpartum.net/learn-more/
I also think that Instagram parenting (having lots of patience, talking about feelings) is for when you have a deep well to draw from. When you have less support you do emergency parenting (yelling). A newborn and a toddler alone most of the day? Emergency parenting. Depression causing worse mood swings? Emergency parenting. You’re getting them through the day, and that’s a lot. One day you’ll be able to walk your toddler through the emotions of their sleeves being rolled up (but not too much!), and that’s great for future you, but now you is making sure you all survive to that point. So you’re doing a good job!

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This is how I was with my second child, my first was 19 months when I had my second and I just got very sad and upset, and I was a single parent. Their  dad was abusive so I left him before the my second child was born. I ended up going back to work when my son was 5 weeks, I needed adult interaction and the constant routine was driving me crazy. I definitely felt so much better and was such a better mom

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I had this and it ended up being postpartum anxiety.  I was extremely irritated and rage-y along with feeling anxious and ruminating on certain thoughts.  With therapy, changes to my diet and exercise, and self-care, I finally feel like I’m turning a corner at 4 months.  I am also open to medication if I feel I need it.  You are a great mom.  Don’t lose sight of that in what is one of the most challenging times ever in parenting.  You will get through this and you will regain lots of your patience.  But be patient with yourself, too.  💕

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Ugh i definitely know how you feel. My daughter is 3 weeks old as well. I dont have another child so it’s a bit different. But I find myself sometimes being so sad and very little patience with especially at night… and I also have barely Any help. 
Seems like you just have a lot on your plate but I would definitely talk to your doctor. I plan to at my 6wks check.

Is this PPD?

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