Do you think parents can be the biggest bullies to their kidsthan strangers ?

As an adult now I have looked back on my childhood realizing my biggest insecurities came from the things my mother would say to me. Then comparing it to when I got bullied at school by kids, and the one that hurt more were the words coming from my mother.

I do understand some people can joke with their parents, but when does that cross a line?

Just a few things said were to me growing up “That’s a lot on your plate.”(this was usually said on holidays like thanksgiving or Christmas so I wasn’t stuffing my face every day.) , “Are you sure you want to get seconds?” (Became really self conscious about eating)

“At least you found someone to deal with you.”

“I wouldn’t date you cause you’re high maintenance.”

Do you think because parents know these insecurities that they think they’re helping instead of seeing it’s hurting you?

Does a parent’s words have a lasting affect on how a child feel about themselves than a random stranger?

Do you think parents bullying their kid about their insecurities create problems when they get into adulthood or how they see themselves?