I’m up to the point of my relationship that I wanna stop trying to help him. It’s annoying that I’m always going out of my way to make lists, schedules, appointments, dates, and so forth for my bf. I’m a very organized person and he’s far from it. At first I truly didn’t mind because like most organized people, we love to do it. But after taking some hard hits of criticism from my bf I am DONE.

Here’s my breaking point:

My boyfriend told me a month ago that he was going on a float trip. About 2 weeks out, I told him if he asked his friend what to bring so he could make a list and he said no but he would. A week later I asked him yet again, and he said he did. He needed a sleeping bag, a tent, and water shoes. And I said okay…and what else? He said that’s it. I asked him if he was sure and he said yeah. So I let him be.

A few days before the trip, we were going from store to store trying to find water shoes. He was super stressed out because tents were expensive, he couldn’t find the proper shoes, and he had to grab all the essentials. Luckily we managed to find what he needed and we were done in terms of shopping. Again, I asked him to make a list of all he needs to take and he brushed it off. The night before, he waits until the last hour before bed to pack. I did not help because I knew I would say he’s missing this or that and he’d get annoyed. The day he leaves he texts me that he forgot this and that and i said “I told you to make a list” and he said “I know”.

Well he comes back from the floating trip, and he rented a tent from a store. I told him he should’ve rented the tent until Monday because I knew he’d be too tired to do it on Sunday but he did he listen to me? Nope. So yesterday passes and of course he doesn’t return it and so today comes around. When I told him to take the tent back before he gets another late charge he is going crazy trying to find the return label. He’s rummaging through all of our stuff and making a mess. Then tell me why he has the audacity to ask me where the return label is and when I replied that he should know he tells me that I’m the one who took it out of the box. Now I’m pissed. I never touched his tent and the reason I know that is because I didn’t even know what color or size his tent even was when it arrived. It wasn’t until he posted it on social media that I saw. At this point he’s getting mad at me for not knowing where I placed the label. I tried to help him look it for it but nothing turned up. I told him that we’re not going to find it and instead to call the store and ask for them to email him another return label. Instead of him listening to me he spent another 15 minutes rummaging through her stuff again causing him to be even more upset. At this point I’m furious because he’s making a mess yet again and he’s mad at me for his dumbass misplacing it?! I told YET AGAIN call the damn store. He finally does and guess what? They sent him another return label.

At this point both of us are upset and being passive aggressive to one another. I know it’s not healthy but I’m just tired of being taken for granted and blamed whenever he can’t find something. And what makes me upset the most is that he can’t even admit that he does that to me. Now it’s not something I would honestly break up with him over because he has always been there for me emotionally, physically, and financially. Plus he was the one who helped me realized me worth a few years back when I was suicidal. He has never laid a hand on me, does not call me names like bitch, whore, how, etc, and has never cheated on me. But this is definitely a problem in my relationship. I’ve tried talking to him but how can you have a conversation with someone if they don’t even realize their fault in the situation?