Is it normal to second guess your wedding because of family?

I love my fiancé with all of my heart. We are getting married in December. Because finances are so tight right now, we have been living with his parents. This is supposed to be the happiest time of my life and I am depressed all the time. We have no freedoms and no respect as a couple. Both of his parents hate me and blame me for everything that goes wrong in their house. Things that don’t even involve me—I’ve become a scapegoat for everyone’s shitty moods. I try to stand up for myself and they don’t listen. When I tell my fiancé and ask him to help me talk to them, they blow up at both of us and cuss me out which makes the tension in the house even worse.

They continually tell me that if I want to be part of their family, then I “need to grow some thicker skin,” which is just a way to validate the emotional abuse, criticism, and blame they throw at me every day.

Well news flash. I don’t want to be apart of their family. I don’t want anything to do with his parents. I just want my soon to be husband. He is all the family I ever want or need.

I can’t go on like this. I have no where else to go. My fiancé and I can’t afford our own place while trying to pay for our wedding, but at this point I would rather cancel the whole wedding and just elope rather continue living in this hell hole.

The problem is my fiancé wants us to continue to tough it out. The living situation is easier on him, however, because he is their baby and can do no wrong in their eyes. But after nearly three months of this I cannot survive in this environment much longer.

If anyone has been in a similar situation, please, please...I am asking for advice, ways to cope, anything. I hate ultimatums but should I just tell my fiancé there will be no wedding unless we put our foot down and separate ourselves from his parents? I don’t really see that happening.