The father of my child came to visit him 3 days ago. He ended up breaking many things in my house and resisted arrest and I believe he assaulted an officerbut im not sure. All his family took his side and bailed him out today which is fine. I want full custody but if I file domestic charges to him he will not be able to get a job.. his family is telling me to ease off that for a while. His dad said we both should go to counseling but we aren’t going to workout after all of this. Yes I have love for him but he is too aggressive and drinks too much. I don’t want to be the bad guy in the story but i feel like I already am. The father of my child grew up in a abusive household so he grew up to be just like his dad. Please help. Or give advice.

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His girl best friend knows he has been aggressive towards me and she says that i say petty things that makes him go off. Kind of saying its my fault but truthfully i have been staying quiet. Yes i might say things like i dont like him having a girl best friend but i dont think that gives him a reason to trash my apartment . Also she has seen him slap me and is still friends with him. She called me when he was in prison and said i was trying to keep the baby away but its not true. I just stopped taking the baby to him and told him to make an effort to come see his son. I even picked him up from bus station since his car got trashed after getting into a car accident.