Am I selfish?

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I’m 24 weeks pregnant and I have been talking to my boyfriend about what we are going to do after she’s born. I don’t like condoms they are uncomfortable I’ve never used any and neither has he but I absolutely despise of birth control any kind of birth control I took the pills when I was younger and they made me feel CRAZY and fucked up my hormones for years after that. My boyfriend is obviously not a fan of using condoms but after I have our baby it’s going to be really easy to get pregnant again and I don’t want another one this soon. Am I an asshole or am I being selfish for saying no to any type of birth control?

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If you DONT want another baby so soon after giving birth, you have three options. 1) don’t be daft and use a condom. 2) if you won’t use condoms, don’t be daft and use contraception, or 3) don’t have sex. 
And before anyone mentions “pulling out” that shit doesn’t work 90% of the time. Be sensible… could you really cope if you were to fall pregnant so soon after having a baby?

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Non-hormonal IUD. 
Either suck it up and use some method of birth control or mentally/financially prepare to get pregnant with a second child at any given moment. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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your not. Birth control really does that to people! I feel like it’s not good for anyone. I even got off because it messed with my harmones.

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You could get your tubes tied or he could get a permanent vasectomy. That’s the only other options I can think of besides abstinence.

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You have a right to not want to use protection, but he also has a right to not have sex with you and take that risk. Just be ready to accept another pregnancy if you choose not to use any kind of birth control and he is willing.

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Condoms are the fastest and easiest option. Try non latex Condoms. And no, you're not an asshole nor are you required to get on birth control. Honestly, the assholes are the ones saying you are an asshole.

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The non hormonal iud is an option but it comes with its own set of risks just like all medical procedures. It’s kinda up to you what you wanna take your chance with. Statistics wise you’re less likely for something to go wrong with that than not getting pregnant without contraception at all but you’ll have to decide for yourself

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So I'm against birth control as well I was on it for years, and it just messed my cycle and hair up as well as other things. Either female condom, male condom or of you have a regular cycle track your ovulation week and don't have sex that week or a few days before and after.

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I would just remember without protection, you could get pregnant. And abortions aren’t a form of birth control. So I would ask yourself, if you ended up getting pregnant would you be okay with it? If not, you should take the necessary steps.

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Your best contraception is abstinence. Literally. If you won't go on birth control and won't use condoms you will eventually get pregnant if you're having sex. Unless you're willing to use abortions as a form of birth control 🤷

Am I selfish?

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