First year of marriage has been hard.

My husband and I got married at the beginning of this year. We have now been together 3 years total, I’m just worried that I may have made a mistake and don’t really know who he is.

I remember our relationship before engagement being so much fun, we laughed and made the best of our time regardless of how shitty things were outside of our relationship.

Now I feel like my husband is depressed and miserable. He will sit on his phone and play games for hours when he gets home from work and barely talk to me. He doesn’t really have any friends and his family lives far away.

I am so content with our life now, and just genuinely enjoying life, and then I get around my husband and 70% of the time, he seems miserable and I just don’t know what to do.

We have talked about it and he just says he feels “unsettled”.

He is now going back to college (just through online) and he works 50 hours a week most weeks, maybe he is just genuinely exhausted? I really don’t know.

I don’t know what to do or say to make him enjoy our life a little more.

We are happy, we never have to worry about money, we have family that loves us, we will be buying a house within a year or two. I just don’t understand why that isn’t enough.

I usually have to dig out his feelings from him because he won’t talk about anything deep with me.

I know he loves me so much, and is just trying to better our lives. But in the mean time, the way he communicates and is kind of super boring, is just not the person I remember falling in love with.

Is this just marriage? Or do I not know who my husband is.