Would you do the dishes?

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Hello! So here’s the situation. I taught for 17 years and then stopped because my husband wanted me to stay at home so we can try and start a family. I stay at home and take care of two dogs and clean and do housework every single day…. For some reason when he’s feeling frustrated or angry he takes it out on me. Yesterday he spent a half hour pretty much telling me I’m a lousy housewife who is selfish and entitled. I left for the day to let him cool down. I got home to a sink full of dishes. I decided I’m not doing them. He says I don’t shit so why would I do them? To prove a point I let the dishes sit in the sink. This morning when I woke up he was upset I didn’t do the dishes. I said you told me yesterday I don’t do anything! Did you forget that? It seems childish I know but he told me he’s just going to keep adding to the pile and that he’s not doing the dishes. It’s stupid! At this point I’m reevaluating even starting a family. I think he just loves that he’s the bread winner and that I don’t make any money. Just curious what others thoughts are on this. Please no rude comments!!!

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he had you quit your job so he can control you honey. 
you need to get a new job, save up money, and leave his abusive ass- do not have kids with a man who acts like that.

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I wouldn’t touch his dishes or any of his messes. 
But idk what you consider a rude comment but when he’s angry he takes it out on you? That’s abuse. He’s verbally abusing you. I don’t care what the situation is but no one deserves to be treated like that 
I’m a housewife myself and my husband has never spoken to me like that. He checks in regularly to see if I’m feeling overwhelmed or if he needs to chip in more. 
I’d sit him down and have a serious talk about how he can’t treat you like a servant. Just because you don’t have a 9-5 doesn’t mean you don’t work. You do. And what you do is important and he needs to see that

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I would wash the dishes I used and leave his. I would also look into going back to work so he cant use employment status or income as a weapon in arguments.

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It sounds like he told you to quit your job so he could have a housekeeper. I would not be with someone like this. I would re-evaluate if you want to be belittled and told you have to clean up after a grown man for the rest of your life.

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You're in an abusive relationship.

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Yeah he’s definitely not going to be a helpful father. He’s going to continue to expect you to do everything even with a child. Go back to work and cut your losses because you will just be even more miserable if you have to also take care of a child along with your asshole of a husband

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I'd NEVER get into a situation where the man has full financial control over me and I have nothing to fall back on. I understand the appeal to be a SAHW/M but he has all the control. I'd NEVER start a family in this kind of situation where he's already riding your ass about doing nothing. You know how much harder it becomes to keep the house clean and such when dealing with kids? Nah girl. Get a job, and ditch this controlling asshole

Would you do the dishes?

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