i think my partner is gay ..

oh god i can’t believe i’m writing this. we’ve been together for 2.5 years and have a baby that was born a few months ago, here’s some of the reasons i think he’s gay:

- when i first met him everyone we worked with told me he was gay. he kept to himself though so they were just saying it based on looks. i asked him if he was and he said no and then later asked me to dinner

- a while back he went on a trip with his best friend(who’s a little fruity) halfway through the trip he came home bc he said he missed me but then broke up with me because i didn’t take the trash out before he came home. he then said he was going to drop his friend off at the airport and then go look at a college a state away. a year after that he told me the truth. he actually took his friend to the state with him and then when he came back he just dropped his friend off at some random place and came home.

-after the trip he kept accusing me of cheating on him and even to this day he thinks i’m going to cheat on him

-his close friends said i’m the first person he’s ever mentioned being in a relationship with. he’s told me i’m not but honestly, i really think i’m his first relationship ever.

-he recently started asking me to do butt stuff? like he wants me to suck his dick and play w his butthole.. i’ve told him that i’m not into that stuff but he’s been begging me. he says he wants to do that for his birthday

-ive tried talking to him about it but he gets pissed off. and it’s not like i’m against gay ppl or given him any reason to be scared to come out to me especially because i’ve identified at bi my whole life.

-he’s also OBSESSED with looking manly/masculine. he works out all the time and will come in an ask if he looks big and to feel his biceps. he won’t eat anything with soy because he says it makes men look like women

do i just trust that he’s straight or do i wait for him to come out on his own ?

EDIT: i have every right to know if i’m being pulled along as a cover. it’s not fair for me to waste my life with a man who could quite possibly be gay and i’d prefer to know sooner rather than later. i also don’t pressure him or constantly ask him if he’s gay, i asked him the first time we hung out and then i asked him after he told me he got a secret airbnb with his friend. again he’s the one that started to think i was cheating even though i’ve done nothing to make him think so. i’ve also told him multiple times i’m uncomfortable with the butt stuff and he was fine with it but recently he’s asked me EVERY DAY and he doesn’t want to do vaginal sex anymore

EDIT 2: i was 7months pregnant when he told me he lied about the friend thing. i didn’t think much about any of it until after that. he told me he didn’t think the baby was his so we took a paternity test (because i knew the baby was, he’s the only man i’ve ever had sex with). after it came back that he was the dad he said because i’ve been truthful he wanted to air out his dirty laundry and then told me he got an airbnb with his friend. i asked if he lied because he was gay and his friend was actually someone he was involved with, he said no and then got really upset that i even asked. i ’ve just started having the suspicion he might be gay maybe three (?) months ago. i haven’t brought it up at all, i’ve been keeping it to myself.. but it feels like him being gay would answer a lot of questions i’ve had in the past.