Moving in together?

Question

So me(18) and my boyfriend(17) have been talking about moving in together by around the start of next year we both have stable jobs and we’ve agreed to start saving now so we can save for a flat around March/April time Id be 19 by that time and he’d almost be 18 we’d be together for almost a year do you think this is too soon to move in together?

Answer

Yes I will wait until you both are at least 18, you may have an issue getting a place because I don’t know if you have credit, I don’t know if you have references, they usually look at your credit at least in the United States I’m not sure where you are, I noticed you called it a flat instead of an apartment or house etc. it’s like here in the United States if you’re not 25, they don’t let you rent a car, or a hotel room, unless you’re 21 or whatever their rules are at the hotel, but you may have a hard time getting an apartment, if both of you are an 18, that’s the one thing, and what’s the rush. Do you have difficult home situation, but you need to get away from, or instead of college housing, you’d rather live together, because he’s still in high school I’m gonna guess unless he’s in college as well, or you neither one of you were planning to go to college or whatever the situation is because you are on different levels when one person is in college and the other person still in high school because you can’t relate to each other, and you want to experience all of the college life, when your partner is under 21 and you’re over 21, you can’t even go places together because the other persons not of age, like at the grocery store if you try and buy a bottle of wine, and you’re not of age, they card everyone, and you can’t buy the alcohol if the person is a minor. For me personally it would be way too soon to live with someone. It takes a good year to get to know someone, and even then they can still surprise you. Have you had fights, have you seen how they deal with anxiety, stress, anger, how they deal with their family, if their family is going to be an issue for you, there’s a lot of things that you don’t know about someone until situations arise, have you seen if he’s somebody who is jealous, insecure, possessive, controlling, manipulative, passive aggressive, there’s so many things that you don’t see until you live with someone or you’ve been with them long enough, or a situation happens like an ex tries to contact you, female friends at work contacting him, friends from school or from social media, how are you view porn in your relationship, is it cheating for you, isn’t cheating for him, what is off-limits, there’s lots of things you guys probably haven’t spoken about. And when it comes to your finances, who pays what, and what if one of you loses their job, can the other person afford to cover all of the expenses, money is the biggest problem In relationships aside from infidelity, and all the other issues I listed above, money usually the lack there of is a big problem, especially if you’re pregnant and not working, or bills not getting paid because it’s not my responsibility, and you don’t know how his family is going to be, when you get pregnant, have a baby, talk about marriage, if he wants children, or you don’t want children or vice versa, there’s a lot of things you guys need to talk about before you even think about getting married or moving in together.￼￼￼￼

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