Gene mutations/Cancer

I have a lot of questions and concerns and worries and I have no one to talk to or ask or anything. So here's my last ditch effort.

I am going to start this off with saying I DO NOT have health insurance. My husband and my daughter do, but we could not afford all 3 of us and my husband is the policy holder so I unfortunately get to miss out. I am not working right now, various reasons but mostly because daycare is too expensive, so I can't afford to go anywhere out of pocket to see a doctor. Period.

Anywho. If you are curious or might have some helpful things to say or something then please continue on what will be a long post I think. Thank you ahead of time to take the time to read my thoughts.

What started this all off was my aunt. My beautiful, kind aunt. She tested positive for the big one, BRCA2. She battled triple negative breast cancer for 4 years, and lost her battle a few months ago.

My family is shit at talking about things, and this stirred up so much drama. My other aunt's all got tested, including my mom, and we think it was only for the BRCA2 mutation. Thankfully my mom and her sisters did not have it. So I just kinda stopped worrying, though always had it in the back of my head.

I received more information on my aunt's gene mutations this past week, and she actually tested positive for a good handful of inherited mutations.

For some background, my grandpa died from Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma and melanoma, and my grandma from non alcohol related liver cancer, both before 65. Even though my other aunt's and my mom are negative for BRCA2, one had cervical cancer and had them removed, and my mom has had precancerous polyps on hers removed often. My uncle is currently in remission for leukemia that was discovered last year. Every damn one of them has had skin cancer removed multiple times. 6 siblings, 3 with cancer, all have had melanoma spots removed.

When I was about 20, I'm 32 now, I noticed a lump under my left armpit. After seeing a family doctor, she said it was a lipoma (my dad gets them A LOT) and sent me to an out patient facility to have it removed. That guy came in, looked at me, poked it once, and announced it was breast tissue and if I wanted him to remove that it would cost way more and just walked out. I was overweight and absolutely mortified. My bf at the time was with me and I just redressed and was so embarrassed I never brought it up again. Now, that alone isn't a big deal I think. Except possibly that it's STILL A LUMP and has multiplied through the years.

Regardless, I have also had my appendix (emergency appendectomy at 12), gall bladder (stopped working at 13), and my tonsils/adenoids out (also 13). With a little googling, I am able to see that all of these link to the lymphatic system and that has me worried.

I've tried talking to my husband about my worries, I have so many issues that 'could be' related, or not. Does anyone have any insight ? Am I seeing something where there is nothing? I feel like I'm being crazy but I'm also stressing out about it.

Thanks for reading my way too damn long post that really was a rant more than anything. 😩