Fiancé’s crazy ex

Warning it’s a long read!!!!!

Thanks in advance!!

Back story:

So me and my fiancé have known each other for years now… so last year back in November he was “with” this girl we’ll call her ‘Amber’ so anyway they dated for a few months and she had told him she thought she was pregnant in November.. well days pass and they end up splitting up and she left town the same day he left (he’d packed all his stuff up and moved back to his home town).. right before she left she started her period and showed him she had started AF! So he leaves back to his home town and goes on with his life.

Well did I mention my fiancé is literally the dingiest guy I’ve ever met. Like I can literally tell him the simplest joke and he wouldn’t get it he’s just dingy and honestly sometimes dumb 😂🤣😂**(REMEMBER THIS ITS VERY IMPORTANT)**

So anyway the end of December rolls around and she tells him she’s pregnant..BY HIM! Well he’s dingy as crap and is all happy go lucky thinking he’s having a kid with this girl. Well sometime after she ends up admitting she slept with her other child’s father.. he then starts to remember she was going back to her home town every weekend to “visit family” where her first baby dad lives but still doesn’t think anything weird about it! So me knowing how TTC Works she told my fiancé she got pregnant by him but her due date was the end of the first week of September. Mind you she had her period on November 16th of 2020. So when we got together he tells me about this situation and everything else that happened after she told him she was pregnant and everything sounded fishy to me. The way she went about a lot of stuff was just “Off” to me. They had planned and paid for a gender reveal but right before the party she had asked him to get back with her he said no so instead of having the gender reveal that was already paid for she just went on social media and posted the babies gender out of spite because he wouldn’t get back with her 🤷🏻‍♀️

So anyway fast forward to when we got together he’s telling me all of this and I asked when’s the babies due date? He tells me when it is and Immediate RED FLAGS 🚩 start popping up so since him and I were TTC I mentioned to him that I felt her due date was off. Well he remembers the exact day they “baby danced” because he had made a specific video that day about hunting. (Dunno how he remembers that but he does) so we went back to that day and added the TWW And came up with what her due date would be if she did indeed get pregnant by him well if he had gotten her pregnant her due date would of been end of July beginning of August! So he has me ask my doctor about it and he confirmed if he did get her pregnant her due date would of been no later then the beginning of August.

So he starts thinking about when she told him she was with her ex.. so according to her due date she would of conceived around December 10-14th of 2020. Well he knows he wasn’t even in the same city she was in anytime in December he was in his home town he went hunting with his dad and brothers. So he tells his family about all of this and tells her about the info he learned well it pisses she off. She then tells a friend of hers that I know that “she was banking on my fiancé never coming to this conclusions because of how dingy he is!”

He brought all of this up to her in June… so months go by she still responds to his parents texts & calls and even sees his mom.

Side note: to me his parents staying in contact with her is weird but hey everyone has their own way of thinking

So anyway she ends up having the baby two days before her due date. Doesn’t respond to any of my fiancé’s text messages or calls when he tried to get in contact with her while she was in labor but she was responding to his parents 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ she even allowed all of his family to go see the baby but wouldn’t let him. She finally starts responding to his messages a week or two after she was born and tells him she isn’t allowed to see the baby or anything but then she texts his parents the total opposite! We have a screenshot of her telling his dad “Your son can see the baby anytime, I know he’s happily engaged and helps take care of his fiancé’s kids that doesn’t bother me he can see the baby whenever”

But then she texts my fiancé and tells him he can’t see the baby because he moved on and got engaged so fast and he’s too busy taking care of my kids and not his own new born baby” yet she doesn’t Allow him to see the baby. I can understand as a mother not wanting another girl who you don’t know to be involved in the babies life right away I 100% get it. But I’m not just some girl he’s sleeping with or hooking up with we’re getting married soon and have a baby on the way. If her baby is his I’m gonna be in the babies life because I’m about to marry him. So I get that aspect of it but I would also reach out to the other girl and try to get to know her so I would feel comfortable with my child being around her! But that’s just me!

So he tells her he wants a DNA TEST because her due date adds up perfect to when she slept with her ex and if he had gotten her pregnant she would of been due at least 4-6 weeks earlier then when her due date was!

He asks her word for word “Do you have any doubts the baby is mine because your due date was off by at least 4-6 weeks from when I would of gotten you pregnant and you did tell me you slept with your ex in December and your due date is spot on for when you slept with your ex”

Her response is “Well I’m pretty sure she’s yours, you can pay for. DNA test but I know who her father is”

To me if I was in her position which I would never put myself in that situation but for arguments sake, if I knew he was the father I would of said just that. I would of replied and said “ I know your the father but if it gives you better peace of mind you can do a DNA test!”

Oh and they had already picked out a name for the baby and she ended up changing the babies name and didn’t tell my fiancé her name. We ended up finding out about the name change because I seen a video she posted on TikTok it came up on my FYP and she had the babies name in the video.

So my thoughts on this are he needs to get a DNA test ASAP And if the baby is his by some miracle we’ll be there for the baby because it’s not the babies fault! She’s innocent in this situation.

So I asked my fiancé if he knows if there’s any other men then just him and her ex that could be the father? He doesn’t know.

It just really Bugs me that she lied to him and his ENTIRE FAMILY making them believe that they had a new baby coming into their lives and she knows that it could be like a 90/10 percent chance the baby isn’t his. She was taking him for granted and she was banking on him never questioning her due date.

I feel bad that I even brought it up but it would of really fucked with him and his family if they found out years later that she wasn’t his or there was a huge possibility that she might not be his. He thanks me all the time for bringing it up cause he knows that would of just been really bad for him if he found out years later!

And now that we’re pregnant after two miscarriages my fiancé wants to keep it quiet because of the situation with “Amber”!

I feel like why am I being punished for her lying and her decisions to sleep with multiple men around the same time and not know who her child’s father is? Why should I have to hide our happiness and excitement because of her? It’s not fair! So I told my fiancé that who ever isn’t happy or whoever isn’t there for the baby during the pregnancy doesn’t need to be involved in the babies life! My reasoning for that is this baby is 10000000% his so they’ll actually have a grand baby that’s biologically theirs and if that doesn’t oversea a girl who’s claiming is their blood then they don’t need to be involved? Am I being too harsh? I guess it just blows my mind that one girl could do all of this craziness and drama over her just telling someone that they got her pregnant! I would of been straight up from the start, I would of told him there’s a possibility you’re the father not a 10000% sure that he is the father! I also told my fiancé that he’s an idiot for not thinking about everything right away. Her having her period in November oh and she also took a pregnancy test the same morning before she started her period and it was negative obviously because she started her period a few hours later, then her telling him she slept with her ex in December. If you look up date of conception base on due date it pull up the dates of probable conception and it’s in December. If you look up conception dates in November to figure out due date her due date would of been the end of July beginning of August! So I told him he’s dumb for not putting two and two together and letting this whole situation get this far! But I need y’all ladies input? Please thank you! Sorry for such a long read but this Situation has been giving me bad anxiety and I need someone Input?

Thanks in advance!!!!