Advise, should I tell him?

Question

Please give me some advise on this. I am in a new relationship, we’ve been dating for about 2 month, and I have never been happier. This guy is everything I ever wanted and more and I’m really falling for him. At the beginning we talked about our past, past partners etc, and I told him I’ve not been intimate with anyone since my ex husband. We broke up a year and half ago. However, 3 month ago my ex came to visit to see our daughter, and one night we had way too much to drink and ended up having sex. Ever since my ex has been trying to get back with me, but for me I actually realized that night that I am 100% over him and could never be with him anymore. And that’s why I knew I was ready to date again and how I met my new boyfriend.
My question is, should I tell him that I slept with my ex that one night? Technically I didn’t lie when I said I haven’t been intimate with anyone since my ex and it was before I met him so it shouldn’t really matter, but I feel like I’m hiding something from him and it just doesn’t feel right. I don’t want to fuck things up with him if I tell him, but I also want to have a honest foundation for our relationship. So what do I do?

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No. Its not his business. You told him the truth, your ex is the last person you slept with. Why complicate the matter?

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I don’t think so just because it’s not his business to know WHEN you slept with someone else before you two were even together. You told him you slept with him before you two got together and that honestly isn’t his business either after only two months. It’s nice you are able to confide in him and that is the start to a great relationship, but there’s no point in bringing it up again.

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It’s your past and honestly, I don’t know like it’s a hard one I would say don’t tell him but if your husband brings it up then maybe he might get hurt that you didn’t tell him. But if you do tell him then maybe he’d get hurt you didn’t bring it up idk. It happened before you guys so for me personally I would just tell him the truth, it’s not like you cheated and maybe you just forgot at that time.

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No, you don’t say anything.

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There's no reason to tell him.  It was before you were even with your current bf.  It's not like he's asking you for dates, times, and locations you did it with your ex husband (red flag if he were) nor are you asking for that from him.

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I think the only reason you’d need to disclose is if new bf notices obvious texts and finds it annoying how much your ex is trying to contact you. If you can put it to bed and new bf doesn’t notice then there’s no reason to bring it up. You can’t control your ex trying to contact you but you can control how you’re handling it and if you say you’re as done with your ex as you say, you need to lay down the law. To only contact you unless it has to do with your daughter or legal reasons. If you have an iPhone and you’re with your new guy, you can turn on do not disturb settings to where only certain people can contact you if your ex is wonderful with timing and ruining things. I know mine was.

Advise, should I tell him?

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