For play problems

So my husband has a hard time knowing if I’m in the mood or not. He tells me I need to straight up tell him I want to have sex. Now I can’t do that because I feel like once I do that for me it takes away the intimacy of it and makes it feel like more of an obligation than something we both just want to do. So I came up with that I will put on a movie we have both seen before and he agreed that it’s a good idea. Well I did that last night and nothing and I tried to initiate and he still didn’t get it. It’s so frustrating like getting started for us is the hard part but once we are in the act everything is perfect. I do initiate sometimes but I don’t want to always be the one to do if. And he initiates sometimes too. But a majority of the time he just has no clue and I mean I could be so obvious. That’s why we came up with the movie idea and I guess that’s not it either.

Any ideas?