Am I the a**hole

Am I the asshole for refusing to pay for upgrades to my boyfriends house?

My boyfriend owns the house. I do live here. I pay a fair portion of the bills. But if it anything other than small maintenance fixes, I do not think I should be financially responsible if legally, I have no ownership to the house and could be kicked out at any moment.

When the kitchen was upgraded, I got to pick out the design but we had the conversation before hand that I was not comfortable paying for it because we are not married and i don’t own the house. It increased HIS home value.

Fast forward to today and the credit card bill is due and he asked how much I could cover and I said all the groceries costs but you’ve got the kitchen remodel stuff. He got so irritated and now says he regrets even doing it because he didn’t think I was serious. And how I must not want to be together forever if I’m not willing to share finances.

To be clear, we share responsibility of all other bills. I expressed my concerns before we bought anything. He is trying to make me feel guilty for standing my ground… am I in the wrong?