He keeps ghosting me and it’s making my head hurt
Basically I’ve been talking to this guy I dealt with back in high school, after I left the high school we still kept in touch but we weren’t close. After everybody graduated I lost touch. We had already slept together in our teens. Fast forward to 2020, I finally move out of town and into my own nice place. I’m 21. He ended up telling me he always loved me and how much he couldn’t wait to see me. I was appalled and excited for him to come, I had always liked him even when we were younger. He originally tells me he’s staying for 2 days because he has to get back into town for his job so he won’t get fired. He gets there that night, we have sex and head to sleep. I get hungry and I order food and while he does send me money for his food, he doesn’t pay for mine. I didn’t trip or say anything. The next morning, he started getting antsy and saying he needed to go shopping for soap and deodorant, I told him I could door dash these things and that ubers were expensive around my house (my car wasn’t working at the time)
He objects and spend $45 to go to Walgreens around the corner. He comes back 20 minutes later, takes a shower and gets dressed. He then says he wants to go out to a Resturant and see the city. I went out to the beach with him and we grabbed food at a Resturant, the entire time he was looking around nervously and he was disengaged with the meal. He barely said 2 words at all. At the end of the meal, he still doesn’t pay for my food and just pays for his. When we get back to my house, he says he has to go buy a Louis Vuitton shirt from the Saks by my house. He spends $750 at saks, doesn’t get me anything. Once he gets back to my house he gets on the phone with his friends, they were in vegas (which was a 2 hour flight away from me) and said they were partying: they invited him to come out there. Instead of saying no, or telling them he was already on a trip with me — he goes and make sure to rebook his flight to vegas and leave me a day early. So instead of leaving on the 3rd day in the morning and staying 2 full days he would be staying 1 full day and leaving that next morning. I kind of got upset and he tried to make an excuse that we’d “always see each other” but I knew it was bs.
Fast forward to June and I’m visiting our hometown for my sisters graduation, he hits me up saying how much he misses me and how those two days was “heaven” to him. I fall for it, tell him I have a hotel (which I had booked originally before he even hit me up), and tell him the dates I’m there in the city. He promises to see me and I agree. I get to the city. He hits me up the first day but still doesn’t mention coming to see me, just asks me about my plans and congratulates my sister on her graduation. The second day I was busy, so he didn’t hit me up at all. The third day I was free, and had texted him all that morning about coming to see me and he agreed that he was but never said a specific time. Around 8 I start texting him because it was getting dark and I was tired, he never replied. In fact, he never even texted me the whole time I was in town after that. I like this guy so much but I don’t understand why he keeps ghosting me.
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