Once in a life time opportunity and my husband doesn't want me to take it Update
I completed and won several beauty pageants from ages 5-18. I wanted to get into Modeling. I have been with my husband since I was 16 and he always supported me. I spent years trying to get discovered. I tried Instagram modeling and didn't get more than 20 followers. I won't lie that I may have focused way too much on my looks and spent way too much doing modeling programs to try to get discovered. This is my dream. Well then I got pregnant.... I knew that dream was over now... I had twin boys and honestly... I felt like my family would be enough for me. I love those boys more than anything. I ended up going to cosmetology school and became a hair dress but I still haven't given up on that dream. I spent some money on a nose job and boob job. Well my dream could finally come true. I got discovered at the mall by a women who helps people become models. You pay for the school and then they actually help you as an agent get modeling gigs. The catch is I would be leaving my husband and 6 year old twins for 6 months and he paying a lot. I have a secret bank account where I would store money in case I got a good but pricey opportunity. I didn't ask my husband... I flat out said yes and we made a payment plan and when I would leave for California. My husband was not happy. I said this was my dream but he was mad I was hiding money and didn't even bother to ask him about leaving him and our children for 6 months. I told him he's supposed to support me and he said he's supported me for years but we also need to think about our family. He said all I've ever cared about was my modeling career and obsession with my looks that I've become absent to the family. I said this is for me and he said "Is our family not enough for you?" I said "No maybe it's not enough! I'm going to do this regardless of what you say!" His eyes got teary and he left the room slamming the door. I feel women should be allowed to chase their dreams just like men. If a guy has a 6 month deployment no one bats and eye but I want to do something that makes me happy and I'm the bad guy.
I'm not a troll and what is wrong with women chasing her dreams. Men get deployed in the military for 6 months and nobody bats an eye.
The money is for the Modeling CLASSES. I have to take them first.
Just because some of you women have internalized misogyny and don't believe women should be allowed to live their dreams doesn't mean I have to. My husband pretty much gave me an ultimatum. He took our twins and went to his sister's and said if our family really isn't enough then I don't need to be a part of it and that he's not gonna subject our children to my toxic "obsession" with my looks and make them think that the only thing that matters in life is your appearance and how others perceive you. I love my children and I'm not picking modeling over them but this is a once and a life time opportunity. If my husband needs to run away to his sister's for the six months so be it. I just hope he will support me when he has seen how far I will go after the classes.
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