interracial hate

so i’m (19) in my first real relationship. i’ve been dating my boyfriend (22) for a couple months and it’s been absolutely amazing. my boyfriend makes me feel like a queen and is so caring and respectful. i am so happy in the relationship i am in. for context, i’m black and he’s white.

after dating for a month and a half, i told some of my family members about my boyfriend. i decided to wait on telling my dad because he’s a little protective and this is the first guy i’m telling him about. but i told my mother who was extremely happy for me and told me she thought he was attractive. i also told my cousin who i have always been close to. she asked me for details about him and eventually asked what his race was. i told her he was white. as soon as i said it, she made a face. she told me that i could’ve “done better” than to choose a white boy. that he’s probably fetishizing me and probably has racist family members. she also said that my dad (her uncle) most likely wouldn’t approve and that he’ll be disappointed that my boyfriend isn’t black when i tell him about my boyfriend in a few weeks. i shrugged it off during the conversation but cried after we got off of facetime.

i just don’t know how to feel. i’m pretty sure i love my boyfriend but family means EVERYTHING to me and of course i want my family to like him and approve. i want my boyfriend to feel comfortable and welcome around them too. does anyone have any advice? how do i deal with this?