You were involved with a man and you did not know that he was married. He has a wife and four children with another woman. You find out your pregnant and you tell him. He tells you that he wants nothing to do with you or the baby but you keep it anyway. Five years you raise this child alone with no help from him. And you are pretty certain that the wife knows nothing about you as well. You find out he dies and his funeral is coming up. Would you take yourself and your child to his funeral?