Can relationships be fixed?

Question

After 8 years im tired of trying to make this relationship work. At the same time im not sure if im ready to take this step even though i know i want to. I have 3 toddlers so I really wish it could work out but we are not a priority to him. Hes a real good guy with a good job but being on drugs makes him make bad choices sometimes. I just dont know what to do. I dont work i cant afford a babysitter my mom just passed away so i also feel like im not ready to lose someone else

Answer

I want you to know that you are not alone, and this is exactly why government benefits exist. To help women in bed situation to find a solution. You are entitled to every government benefit under the sun because you have those children. Section 8 or transitional housing, free or reduced lunch for school age, state funded daycare, if you don’t have a vehicle get on the list at Salvation Army, welfare, TANF which is temporary assistance for needy families, food stamps, wic, And with the pandemic right now formula companies are sending out a year supply of formula, there are tons and tons of organizations out there they can help you, Catholic charities is good for shelter, free counseling, Energy Assistance, rental assistance, churches are also great for food pantry, most people in the church usually have items they are no longer using from baby items to furniture,  clothing, you may be able to even find some babysitters there. Out of the goodness of their heart to help you out. Find community with them since your partner is not your support. I would file for custody and child support, make sure you include the child tax refunds, so that you don’t get screwed and he tries to take the money, especially since he’s most certainly not supporting them more than 50%. Make sure you include the drugs, any evidence that you have abuse or neglect. You have options, set up a back up plan, and figure it out. Goodwill is also another option what you can’t find from churches, furniture etc. you can probably find on Facebook marketplace, a lot of times people just give away stuff or for cheap. Take care of yourself, make yourself and your children a priority, just take it one day at a time￼. And with the holidays coming up most organizations and businesses participate in toys for tots or giving tree, it’s a tax write off to them, you give them your Christmas list, they get all the toys for you. Please don’t feel like you don’t have any option, because you do. Like the other person said relationships only work when both people want it to work, it sounds like the only one that wanted to work is you. Unfortunately people don’t break up anymore, one person either becomes an asshole or completely distant until you get tired of it and that way they are the bad guy, because you are the one who wants out.

Answer

They can only be fixed if both partners want it to. And it sounds like he doesn’t. I would try to focus on yourself and your little ones for a bit. See if that helps you feel better about your situation.

Can relationships be fixed?

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