Sex question?

My man and I have been together for four years and we are deeply in love. I am 30 and he is 34.

I desire making love..kissing him..touching, all of that good stuff. And he can be a very sensual man. He is attentive to my needs and always wants me ton finish during sex

But there is an issue.

We start off having sex by kissing and touching. We take things slow.

Then before we know it, it turns into a porno set.

The kissing stops, and it becomes this dirty thing...which I enjoy but afterwards I am left feeling kind of sleezy.

And this is not all his fault. I turn it into that as well.

I mean, TMI I know, but he even finishes on my face. I ask for it.

How can we take it slow and not let our animalistic rages turn our sex session into this every time?

Sorry if I went too far with this lol