Anyone divorced with kids?!? How do you do it?

Question

My husband and I are starting to discuss the option of divorce and it’s killing me!! Not because I love him (because that ship has sailed) but because I don’t want to ever not be with my child 
She is only 3 years old. A part of me would die if I only got to see her 50% of the time. I can’t stop crying thinking about it. I am a blubbering mess! 
I have been putting up with my husband for far too long. The fights are getting very scary and I want to tough it out because I don’t want to lose time with her. 😭😭😭 
How do you guys do it? How do you mend the hole in your heart from not seeing your child every day?

Answer

I felt the same way, but honey, you get over it. Life gets so much better for you and your babe when you have some control and lose the chaos. You’ll miss your girl when he has her, but the breaks become nice. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Without the daily grind you can plan quality time and it all becomes so much more special

Answer

Divorce was the best thing I ever did for me and my kids. You don’t think so at the time. But I had to make the decision my marriage with my First husband wasn’t a good one. My kids were two years old and 7 months. I got away. Became the woman he was stopping me from being. No more arguing. No more fighting. My kids got to see the best of him. And they see the best of me. It’s been almost 8 years. And I am so happy! I am remarried with a beautiful baby boy. None of that would have happened if I stayed with my last ex. He hasn’t changed at all. So I have anxiety when I think where I would still be if we were together

Answer

My ex lives in a different state 1300 miles away. My kids live with me full time and he visits every other weekend (or so). It’s really hard going from having them constantly, being the one in charge, and being their constant, to being childless. It’s weird. But, as much as it sucks and I get bored after a few hours, it has allowed me to rekindle friendships that have been pushed aside with my best friends. I’ve been able to enjoy a little me time too.

Answer

My littlest one was 3 and her brother 6 when my divorce started. It took over 4 years to complete and we ended up with 53% vs 47% custody with me having slight majority. It kills me every second of every min of every day when my kids aren’t with me. My son is now 11 and my daughter is now 8 and it doesn’t get easier. The best thing I could learn to do is just keep myself busy. I do all of my shopping, housework, laundry etc when they are at their dads. I’m lucky enough to be a SAHM too since I’m now remarried but that comes with challenges as well. I’m expecting another baby with my new husband in Feb and I’ll be very honest, I can’t wait. Nothing will every replace my other children, but having a baby I don’t have to share for half of his life is going to be amazing. With all this said you CAN do it. Just takes willpower and strength. You got this!

Anyone divorced with kids?!? How do you do it?

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey