Seems like every time there’s something I do with my friends, my husband sabotages my plans. He ruined my birthday that way and had the nerve to try and dictate how many friends I could invite to dinner, but made me hella late so I had to cancel. Weeks later my 2 best friends want to take me out for massages and dinner and he was just a sick about it and so rude when they dropped me off… didn’t come out to speak and mad because I didn’t bring him back food. Now, my best friend of 16 years who has been struggling with getting pregnant is finally pregnant and having a baby shower on the same day as my stepdaughter. My plan was to go to my stepdaughters party then catch the end of my friends baby shower.

My stepdaughters mom texted me asking if I can help her plan and I told her of course! I asked her what time she was planning on having the party bc I also have a baby shower and want to plan accordingly! She was totally fine with me asking and everything had been cool… my husband tells me that she could have taken that the wrong way & I told him that she seems fine because I’ve been talking party plans with her since… so I ask him, so did YOU take it the wrong way? And he told me that nothing else should be important on that day and if it were my biological kids that I wouldn’t go to the baby shower but the thing is that my best friend and I would plan accordingly knowing my biological kids were having a birthday because I CAN CONTROL THAT.

I’m sick of him acting like he doesn’t want me to have friends. I’m not choosing my friends over my husband but the principle behind trying to control whether I can have friendships or not are a deal breaker for me. It’s controlling, weird and unhealthy. I have great people in my life that often do more for me than I do for them because my husband is an asshole. Idk what to do.