Venting-its a long one
My husband I have been married for 2 years. We have a 16 month old. She goes to daycare Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday. She stays home Monday and Friday and my husband watches her. My husband I both work from home. I have an extremely busy and stressful desk job and am always on the computer and phone. My husband has a very flexible job meaning he maybe works a couple hours a day. On the average work day he maybe makes 1-2 calls and a handful of emails. On Tuesday/weds/thurs he typically does whatever he wants (goes to store, house project, frolfing, video games)
So our schedule is typically this. Weekdays baby gets up at 7, I bring her down, he has her bottle already ready. He will usually watch/change her in the morning. I always get her dressed. I start work at 8. Monday/Friday he starts watching her at 8, other days he takes her in to daycare at 8. I pick her up at 5 or take over watching her at 5 until bed at 7. On weekends, I have to watch her all day both days because my husband watches her Monday/Friday. So according to him he shouldn’t have to watch her since he does those 2 days.
My husband does outside chores only. Meaning trash, mowing lawn, leaves, etc. and projects (hanging stuff, building stuff, anything random). He does also do a lot of cooking since I hate it. I do laundry, dishes, all cleaning and tidying up, basically anything day to day. I always make our daughter meals and do cleanup. I always give her baths, etc.
I just feel like I never get a break from work or our daughter. Our relationship is suffering because we don’t do enough together without our daughter. I don’t even want to do anything together because I’m starting to resent him for not helping me more. He barely works and doesn’t help with nearly enough while I have a very busy and stressful job. I cry just about work nearly every day.
Additionally, I had a hair appt last Saturday and he went on about it being “not fair” and complaining about having to watch her extra on Saturday.
Am I the b**** for wanting help with our daughter on the weekends and more from him during the week? Or is my husband just being ridiculous?
Let's Glow!
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.