How do you get the strength to go through with divorce?! We have been married 3 years, but together 14 years, middle school sweethearts so I thought. I just need the strength to leave, we have an almost 4 year old that he pays no attention to, he'd rather drink then spend time with us, he'd rather go hang with buddies then spend time with us, he'd rather mentally and physically abuse me then love me. That right there should give me the strength to leave but I can't!!!