Since having my son just over 6 months ago now, me and partner are really growing apart. We have split nearly twice now but have always talked it through and agreed to try and make it work. It goes okay for a few weeks but then we end up just as we were. We don’t go on many date nights like before but we have been and tbh they have been amazing, but we can’t afford to do it regularly with me on maternity leave still so he’s pretty much paying bills atm.

The other problem in our relationship and I would say is the main root cause to our current problems is sex, we haven’t had sex since my son was made, which was a year and a half ago…I had awful pelvic pain when pregnant so that’s why we never did when I was pregnant and I was scared of miscarriage. I had a very traumatic birth and I’m still not really over it so haven’t let him go anywhere near me…I have done oral stuff to him in that time just not sex. He won’t admit that that’s causing him to feel shit because I know it is but he says it doesn’t matter. I haven’t even been for my smear test because I’m so scared..I know I need to get over it and just do it but I just can’t and it’s horrible! I really need some advice or if anyone else is in a similar situation x