My boyfriend & I didn’t have sex for over a year. I gained a lot of weight and my boyfriend said he was struggling with erectile dysfunction due to antidepressants. I found saved photos of naked pornstars on my boyfriend’s phone. And caught him in lies where he’d say he was in the bathroom “pooping” but he was actually looking at porn. It honestly hurt my feelings because I didn’t understand why he needed to save these pictures to his phone - why didn’t he just look at them online and masturbate rather than go through the trouble of saving them? It feels more intimate when he saves the photos. When he found out I was hurt about it he ended up saying naked pictures to a “hidden” folder in his iPhone. Anyway I ended up losing 100 pounds and my bf and I started having sex again. We recently went through a couple months where we didn’t have sex again. tonight we started to have sex but my boyfriend couldn’t stay hard. He flipped out and said it’s because I make us have sex in the dark because of my insecurities and that it’s a turn off for him. He said “do you think I look at dark pornography?!” He said it was a turn off and that if we can’t have sex with light on he will never have sex with me again. Honestly it was light enough in the room to where we could still see the outline of each other’s bodies. I feel humiliated and sad. A big reason I can’t have sex with light on is because I feel like he’s comparing me to the saved photos he had on his phone. Would you be hurt?