Mom guilt 😓

My daughter put me through the ringer today. Also, my 4 month old caught a cold from her so he was miserable all day. My husband works 7:30-4:30 on Saturdays, so it was just me and the kids all day (kudos to you stay at home moms). I was at my wits end by the time my husband came home. I even cried while folding the laundry after he got home. My daughter decided tonight was a good night to pull out all her moves at bedtime to get mommy and daddy up there - unzipping her sleep sack and getting it stuck around her neck, saying she pooped, yelling “help” super loud, etc. My husband had to go back to work at 8 so I was solo for her antics. By 8:45 I had enough and broke my own cardinal rule. I went up there, yelled at her, and said she was bad and a bad girl. She looked so sad. I never wanted to call my kids bad. Acting bad, okay fine. But to say they are bad is putting a label on their entire existence, in my mind. I know it sounds trivial, but it’s important to me to not do that. Then she said “thank you mommy” for tucking her in, thus making me feel worse. 😭 Please tell me I’m not alone!