My ex-husband is paying for child care so I can babysit for a living?

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Writing this I’m distraught, sad, and disgusted. My husband wanted this divorce after I did everything he wanted for 3 years. I am left to find a job and babysitting seems to be flexible enough with kids and graduate school. My husband decided that he will let his parents pay for extended day at school on the days I have them just so I can BABYSIT FOR A LIVING and not be with our own kids. I’m so torn up about this. Long story short, idk how this awful human ended up the way he did but I feel so sad. I feel sad watching and bonding with other children when mine are wondering when I pick them up from school. When I’ll be there. When the next day they get to see me. Is there anyway around this?

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He doesn’t sound like an awful person for figuring out extended care for your kids so you can work.  He didn’t choose the job you have, you did.  If you don’t want to do that get a different one.

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It's called being a nanny not babysitting. And if that doesn't appeal to you as a job then maybe look for a different job that you can do.

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I completely understand the dilemma. It’s like a catch 22. Having someone else being paid to spend time with your kids while your being paid to spend time with someone else’s. Ugh. I’m sorry you’re going through this at the moment. Some families are ok with having your own kids with you while you are watching their kids. You just have to talk to them to find out how they feel about it. Also, I don’t know how old your kids are, but maybe getting them involved in a sport or some other type of after school activity so they are experiencing something rather than just being watched by someone else? Sending :::hugs:::

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I’m not sure what you think an alternative solution would be. Are you proposing he pay you instead so you don’t have to find a job?

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You aren’t babysitting for a living. You are completing school and doing some side work to help supplement. 
Calm yourself.

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I don’t think grad school is a necessity. Start working and be a professional working mother.

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I mean, I think it’s pretty considerate that he’s paying for childcare so that you can work. Otherwise that would’ve come out of your pocket for you to have to work anyway.

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You sound bitter. He’s helping you out and you want to fault him because you need to work. Postpone grad school and you can work while your kids are in school

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If you don’t want to babysit, I’d find a different job?  SO MUCH out there!  Or if babysitting is the way you want to go, maybe working at the daycare where your kids will be!

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I think you mean thank you for paying for extra child care so you can make money. 
If you don't like it, find another job that fits your time frame

My ex-husband is paying for child care so I can babysit for a living?

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