Orgasming only with penetration?

Question

This might be a dumb question, but I was wondering, do all women orgasm from penetration?
I never have, only if a vibrator was involved.
And if the answer is yes, is there any tips on how to get there?

Answer

No, actually the majority of women (about 80% or more) can’t orgasm from penetration alone & need clitoral stimulation to get there. U can do positions that allow for clit stimulation during intercourse, either by using ur own hands, ur partners hands, or a vibrator (like u mentioned). U can also try being on top & grinding, as ur clit typically gets stimulated by his pelvic are.

Answer

It sounds like you already know the answer, without even realizing it. 
You have two organs down there. One for reproduction and one for pleasure. Since they are so close together, they get confused, and besides, sex-ed sucks big time.

Your vagina is for reproduction. It is your birth canal, and a safe place for your partner to ejaculate his sperm to get you pregnant. It is also an outlet for your menstrual flow. To protect you from trauma caused by pain, your vagina is largely without nerve endings, leaving it mostly with very little feeling. If it was very sensitive inside, child birth, menstruation, inserting tampons, infections and sex would be intolerable. Unfortunately sex with a male partner is mostly concentrated around your vagina with his penis pumping in and out of it.

Your clitoris is actually your primary pleasure organ. It is the equivalent of the male penis, except that you do not ejaculate, and you do not pee through it. It is a massive organ, going almost 15 cm inside your body. It forms 2 wishbone structures, the 2 fat bulbs that are going under your lips towards your vaginal entrance, and two thin long legs that goes deeper in your body. Just that little tip that you can see and feel (the glans) has more than 8,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ anywhere on a human body. In other words, it is made for stimulation, leading to orgasms. That is quite literally its only job – pleasure leading to orgasms.

During normal sex, most women do not get enough stimulation to their clitoris to orgasm. Only about 20% to 30% can orgasm from just intercourse. Research has shown that it is because their clitoris is close enough to their vaginal opening so that the thrusting of the penis also stimulate their clitoris. The rest of us need extra clitoral stimulation to orgasm during sex. There are a number of ways to achieve this. It may feel unnatural in the beginning, but it will become second nature pretty quickly and it holds the keys to a great sex life.

During sex, you need to stimulate your clitoris. You can do it with your fingers, his fingers, a small clitoral vibrator, a couples vibrator or by changing how you move during sex. Giving your clitoris extra stimulation by rubbing or vibration is easier done with you on top, or him behind you. And it is pretty much just masturbating while he is inside you.

Changing the way you move can also give you great orgasms. With him fully inside you, tilt your pelvis so that your clitoris makes contact with his body. The rub, squeeze and grind in small movements on him. There is no rule that states that sex must be the in/out up/down that does so little for you. When you get more adept with this, you can even end the in-stroke with a sweep of your clitoris on his body, giving you back this typical in/out motion. This is also much easier done with you on top where you can control the movements. 

There is even a sex position that achieves this very efficiently called the coital alignment technique (or C.A.T.). You can google it. It takes some practice and experimentation, and I think it is easiest done with a long term partner.





You can also think of it this way – a lesbian couple having sex does not have a penis between them. They rely on this grinding, rubbing and squeezing of their clitoral areas together. The fact that you have a male partner with a penis does not change the way you orgasm. It still takes the rubbing, squeezing and grinding together of your clitoral area on his body.

Orgasming only with penetration?

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