How would you feel??

Long post.

A little back story: my MIL has always had a problem with me since my husband and I got married. I’m unsure why because she won’t discuss any issues with me about it, she just talks bad about me to my husband which is an ongoing issue. Example; my first pregnancy (3years ago) became high risk at about 20 weeks, my scan showed IUGR and baby was three weeks behind another issue so she came and stayed with us for about a week and she didn’t see me eat breakfast one morning(I ate and went back to bed) and texted my husband asking him why I don’t care about my baby and if I truly loved my husband I’d fight for him (I’m not sure why that was mentioned because my husband and I weren’t having any issues.) That’s how she is towards me. However, I did loose the baby but now recently she asked my husband if she could have some of the ashes from my daughter to put in a necklace. Her asking that infuriated me especially because she doesn’t even pronounce my daughters name correctly and it’s not difficult it’s pronounced “mad-uh-line” instead of “mad-uh-Lynn”. I’m personally wondering if I’m overreacting or not because my husband doesn’t see it the way I do.