Posted on another group but got no replies so trying here

So there's this guy I like, we have sent messages back and forth on Snapchat but haven't had any contact for a few weeks (life and children priorities for us both) so it's just very casual chat. When we do chat though we get on very well and have things in common. Here's my problem: how do you get someone to notice you in THAT way? I know I can't make someone like me in that way but can I at least try and make some kind of impression? Another thing is, we live about 40 mins drive away from each other and he did say in a previous message 'that's far', so makes me think maybe he's just not interested. But then some other messages make me think the opposite. I would like something to happen with this guy but I'm too nervous to do anything about it incase I get rejected over the distance between us, I can't really say 'wanna meet for coffee' because who's gonna drive all that way for coffee? Lol. This is the only guy I've been interested in since leaving an abusive relationship a year ago so I'm a bit rusty when it comes to dating and I need help ladies, how do I approach this? How would I know if he even likes me like that. Since leaving my abusive relationship and doing some soul searching and healing, I know what I want in a partner and he literally checks every box! I don't ever really get attracted to people but this guy is on my mind a lot!! What do I do?

As a bit of extra info-if it matters, I have 4 children (2 are older and do their own thing, the 2 youngest live with me), he has 5 children (under 14 who don't live with him but he has them regularly) so finding time could also be an issue, but I still want this. I don't think he has any idea how I feel and I'm not comfortable enough to just come out with it because we're just very casual, nothing more (at the moment) and if the feelings are not mutual then I don't want to ruin the whole thing and not speak at all. Help 🆘💁‍♀️💛♌♒ (added our starsigns just because it's cute lol)