Can’t tell if I’m being overdramatic?

I 21F have recently got out of a two year relationship with a 30M and am now seeing a 28M so I haven’t really been in the dating scene much to know if this man is actually bad. I’ll try to make it short and simple

Background:

He’s 28 working as a assistant manager at a gas station for a few months and has worked construction for three years but hasn’t done the construction job for a couple months due to the boss taking a long holiday. He lives with a roommate (his roommate loves him but he hates him) that didn’t pay his half of rent this month so he had to cover it unexpectedly draining his savings.

Question things he’s done in the span of 80 days of knowing him:

•WE ARE NOT DATING. He tells people we are dating when he knows we aren’t because “it’s easier to explain”

•once thought he accidentally climaxed in me and didn’t tell me until three days later

•will bring snacks/drinks over for himself to my place when I have snacks/drinks that he picked out for him already but never brings me anything

•I told him I don’t approve of weed multiple times and once said “I’m just going to smoke a blunt with my friend then head over” after I spent the entire day cleaning for him to come over. I told him to stay home after that

•claims he uses me as an excuse (and enjoys being able to) to tell his friends he can’t smoke weed anymore since I don’t approve of it

•claims it’s very attractive that I’m a “independent woman” since I live alone/work full time

•did not care about my birthday this early December and slept the entire day instead

•kept laughing while I was on the verge of tears trying to explain to him why I thought I just got fired since he found the situation hilarious but he knew I was freaking out

•once had to pay 180$ to get his car out of repo after he refused to park where I told him to at my apartment claiming it was “too cold to walk that far” (it was barely half a block from my door)

He said he didn’t have the funds to get it out and would’ve had to leave it there. He’s not paying me back as far as I know

•claimed he was going to get me a Christmas gift multiple times then told me he didn’t on the 23rd. I gave him his gift anyway and he then asked “why would you get me a gift” Like we didn’t discuss multiple times that we were going to get each other gifts. The lack of gift isn’t very upsetting due to his money issues, it was just his question afterwards that’s upsetting me. I handmade part of his gift box to make it cute and the items inside of the box equaled roughly 100$

•he will TELL me when are going to hang out and gets lightly upset if I disagree/don’t want to

•constantly claims to have “Puerto Rican anger issues” but would never have them towards me

•has been to jail for pushing a guy out of a third story window but got released on “act of passion” since it was a cheating girlfriend situation

•has had a history of gang activity in his youth, been in psych wards as a child for “lack of emotions”, has a history of drug use including cocaine

•claims repeatedly he’s in this for the long run and doesn’t want to lose me

But besides all that he’s cool 😅 it is honestly more of a friends with benefits situation in my eyes but he wants to have an actual relationship with me. I just think all of these things are getting to much and I need to distance myself but I’m not sure if I’m being over dramatic. I’m sure he’s done more but it’s a lot to keep track of