How to reach orgasm with my partner?

I've been sexually active since I was 16.. I am now 29.. I have only ever had an orgasm twice with a partner, both times have been with my husband and both times have been during oral sex, me on top and in control. I can very easily reach climax with a vibrator but cannot during sex.. is there anything I can do to help change this? The orgasms I've had with my partner have been beyond what I could ever reach by myself and really don't want to have to wait another 5 years before it happens again 😅