Feeling really under valued

So tonight my bf and I are supposed to exchange gifts, and I’m going over to his place to give his family the gifts I got them as well (they’re in town visiting). Last weekend he told me his parents want to either make dinner or pay for dinner and pick it up because I’m the guest. This morning he asked what I wanted from this Mexican place, I told him, then he replied that actually he has food at his place and his parents will have leftovers so it’s “every man for himself for dinner.” I was like oh ok… I know this sounds stupid but it’s just a constant cycle of not being appreciated or valued or anything. And now with his family agreeing to this I’m a little uncomfortable. Especially because next month he and I were supposed to go out of town to visit friends of mine, and last week he told me he was discussing it with his mom and she suggested that I actually want to go without him… WTF. I’ve never had an issue with his mom, she seemed to like me but now I feel like she’s trying to put words in my mouth or sabotage things.