What can I do

So I love my husband, we’ve been together since 2010, we were 18 and 19 when we got together.

We are now married and have two beautiful children, a daughter, she is turning 3 this year, and a boy who is 4 months old.

As I said I love my husband.

But… I feel like there is no romance anymore.

We like only kiss when we go to bed, like a light kiss on the lips for saying good night.

A hug every now and then. And sex? Yeah that happens about once a month.

And looking back - this started around the time when we started to ttc in 2018.

And now it’s like so clear to me.

I love him and he loves me, but I think the romance is almost dead.

I mean I find more satisfaction in romance books…

I tried to talk to him about this, but he was upset and said it was all in my head..

So what can I do?

I don’t want my marriage to die.