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I’m not understanding why she’s upset, it’s one day, she’s an adult, she’s away in Hawaii. Honestly who cares, not a big deal to wish someone a belated birthday…
Are you really upset?
I have a friend who is on vacation in Hawaii with her family and her children god parents. Yesterday was her birthday but it totally slipped my mind because I’m 6weeks pregnant and experiencing really bad morning sickness to the point I can’t go to work. TODAY I had enough strength to text her and wish her a happy birthday. Mind you guys I have a toddler and 6weeks going through this morning sickness (all day sickness). Im a firm believer that you enjoy vacation with the ones that is there and we can chat once you get back… that’s how my family is. It’s not about who is right or wrong but damn she experienced the same thing I am when she was pregnant and I didn’t take it to heart. What would you do?
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Yesterday was my birthday and one of my good friends texted me this morning feeling bad she didn’t text me yesterday. She was in her lab all day from 7am to 7pm. Could she have texted me before or after class? Yes. Could she have texted me on one of her breaks? Yes. Do I care that she didn’t? NO. I’m an adult and I don’t need her to tell me Happy Birthday. Also, the time she had in between for herself I’d rather her unwind for HERSELF.I have emetophobia so I can only imagine what you were going through and with taking care of a child. She will eventually get over it. It’s not like you were rude and you texted her when you could.
Kh
Thank you! I don’t think they know how hard it is when your husband works, have a toddler to care for(keep in routine) while sick. With my first child I was hospitalized for morning sickness.
I wouldn’t even be mad if she didn’t tell me happy birthday I feel like we are adults why does it bother you that much but everyone sensitivity is different.
I can’t believe all the responses here saying they agree with your friend. Are y’all children? I always forget birthdays or I remember their birthday but get sidetracked before I actually contact them. I would never be friends with someone who cares that much, and none of the people in my life have ever been upset with me because they know that I (and all adults) are busy. Anyone who throws a fit like this is toxic. IMO the only thing you did wrong is say you didn’t text her because you were too sick… texting is not an effort. Sounds like you forgot but lied about it.
Ly
well I don't think agreeing with the friend with being upset makes me a child, would I ever act that way? no. but do I get why some people do get upset over it? yes. doesn't make me a child though and just reading your first sentence made it seem as if you think just because we could agree with why shes upset makes us children. I guess we can agree to disagree on that
AB
Again, I didn’t say anything about how people feel about their own birthday. I think the friend’s response is childish. I think starting drama because someone didn’t text you happy birthday is childish. People are entitled to their thoughts and opinions, but I’m allowed to think their actions are childish.
Ly
you didnt say it but that's what you're insinuating by saying "are y'all children" for being upset. Some people just take birthdays to heart more than others, doesn't make them children though. each person should be able to feel the way they feel about their own birthday no really wrong or right when it comes to that.
So wait, you broke the news you were pregnant and all she said was congrats then immediately turned it back on herself? Seems a bit self centered
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Like birthdays happen every year but pregnancies are a huge life changing deal. I can understand feeling hurt if a good friend didn't get in touch on my birthday but the minute they said they were pregnant and dealing with morning sickness my focus would be 100% on the exciting news. Also, congrats to you!
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Kh
I’m starting to notice that….
Wow, when you're an adult, birthdays really aren't a huge deal. You literally still texted her happy birthday and it shouldn't matter that it was just the day after. I have plenty of friends who don't text me happy birthday and am I still friends with them? Absolutely! That is the most ridiculous thing to be that pissed off about.
Kh
Ok I’m glad someone knows how I feel about it.
This is something I may have gotten upset about in middle school. Pregnant or not, people forget. It’s okay to have a busy day and not message them. People are so entitled now that texting is so prevalent. Can you imagine in a third world country getting upset about something like this where people don’t have access to communication in the same way? She isn’t the center of your universe and she shouldn’t be. You have a family.
HM
Prayers to you girl! Losing friends can be hard no matter the circumstance but maybe it would be for the best. ♥️
Kh
I’ve been thinking this we were once friends back in 2016 and we fell out because she had an event but I had family that just came to visit. So then we ended up being friends in 2019 and I feel like it’s happening all over again.
HM
I’m so sorry. I’ve had people in my life like this and I had to reassess our relationship. Unfortunately you might have to have some hard conversations but ultimately, it will be better for your sanity. You can be more present for your family too. You shouldn’t have to worry about losing a friend or being thrust into conflict over such a small thing.
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