Im 39 weeks pregnant and we have talked about who I want in the delivery room multiple times. I said I am most comfortable with just my hubby in room, and 2 visitors were allowed at this time due to Covid. My mother called me selfish if she does not get to be in the room because it’s her grandchild back when I was around 15 weeks pregnant. I gave up and let it go and tried not to talk about it again until she brought it up again a few weeks later saying she would really like to be there but understands if I just want my hubby. I was like THANKKKK GODDD OMG. So I told her that’s probably what I will do and she let it go for awhile. THEN, about a month ago, I had my birth plan from the hospital on paper and she asked to see it. I didn’t fill it out just yet because I wasn’t for sure what I wanted yet. She asked if SHE could help me fill it out and grabbed a pen. She wrote MY NAME on it And once again asked if she could be in the delivery room! Now, Im a very shy person even to my mother and it’s hard for me to stick up for myself so I couldn’t. She uses the excuse that she is ALWAYS there for me when I need it and it makes me feel so guilty so I said “i don’t know” and she wrote her name down as a support person along with my hubby! And then she started going through the rest of my birth plans questions and was telling me what to pick and what not to. I know, I should’ve said something I just couldn’t, needless to say I did not turn that birth plan in and made a new one. A few days ago my hospital informed me that only 1 support person/visitor is allowed due to Covid so I let her know this and she was upset of course. Today she started talking about how bad she wanted to be in the room and saying things like “I could just wait in the waiting room and if *my hubby* gets hungry she could get him food” and “me and *my hubby* could switch in and out of the room” and “you’re not going to care who is looking at your private parts when you’re in that much pain” I’m like ok…. Because I told her I don’t want to be like a car show where anyone can just look at me in my most vulnerable state. Just what I’m most comfortable with. She gives me so much unsolicited advice and I’m scared while in hospital she will want to constantly hold my baby and tell me I’m doing everything wrong. I was planning on just not really having anyone at the hospital for awhile. And after the hospital for a few days at least. Ugh I know I need to stick up for my self, should I just let them switch out??? So stressful