My BIL and his GF had a beautiful baby boy on Monday and I’m over the moon for them, for us as family to be growing and for my kids to have a new cousin.

We live on the other side of the world to them and we set up a group to share photos of us and the kids. It’s lovely keeps it all private.

But here’s where I’m started to get triggered. I had a pregnancy loss end of October and it’s was traumatic. I fell pregnant with an iud not only was I pregnant it was ectopic so I needed my tub removed this all happened the day before my sons 1st birthday. I was in the same hospital I gave birth in the year before so it was very messed up. Not to mention I was sharing a room with a lady who was in labour while I waited to have sugary. My BIL’s GF has not stopped post about everything!! Then he reposts it! So I’ve to see everything twice and they put it in the group so I’m seeing it 3 times!! He’s a beautiful wee thing. But I don’t need to see it everywhere.

Then today she put up a photo with this text “anyone who is already sick of my baby spam can delete me it’s not stopping”. Im like this is so insensitive to friends and family to not only posting 6-8 times a day about your baby but to them say that, you don’t know how trigging your words are to women who have lost a pregnancy, who have had a miscarriage or multiple losses or to the women who are trying for a baby but sadly aren’t able to.

I’m like it’s just her age she’s she’s only 25 that’s what they do over there they show off what they have. But I’m like I need to mute her but will she get annoyed if I’m not liking or reacting to every bloody post!! This is just so hard and has got my head all messed up.