Am I wrong to feel this way?

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Hi everyone. 
My boyfriend of ten years and I are both turning 24 this year and we are expecting our first child. I am 13 weeks pregnant. 
His parents allow him to sleep at my house, but do not allow me to sleep at his house because “if they let me sleep over, they will have to let his sisters have their boyfriends sleep over too”. His sisters do not have significant others, nor are either of them pregnant. 
I’m kind of annoyed at this situation because the situations are not comparable. Again, I am pregnant and his sisters are not. We have been in a relationship for 10 years, and his sisters are both single. We are looking for our own place, but in the meantime, it would be nice to be able to just take a nap without being woken up to drive home in a snow storm while pregnant. 
He wants to have a conversation with his parents because he is frustrated by this situation as well, but is unsure how to go about it. Does anyone have tips for him? I do not want to overstep and involve myself in the conversation as I feel it’s not my place. I have not mentioned any of this to his parents and I am very respectful of their decisions in their house, but am I wrong to feel annoyed? 
Am I being selfish or overreacting?

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I mean it is absurd to me they are dictating their 24 yr old sons sleeping with a pregnant girlfriend. Not like they don't know you guys have sex. But it is also their house so if they say no not really much y'all can do. You're both 24 with a baby on the way. Probably best to just move out asap. You can have a talk but in the end it is their house so if they don't want you staying over they have the right to say no.

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Their house their rules. So no they  are not wrong, maybe difficult to understand since it doesn't make much sense. What I don't get is, you know that that is their rule so why put yourself in a situation where you have to drive back in a snow storm. Like you know you wont be able to spend your night there so why be there? Why not just have your boyfriend over at yours?

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It's their house 🤷‍♀️ maybe they don't want you to start staying there because they don't want you to think you can all live there once baby arrives.

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His parents don’t owe you anything because you’re pregnant. If their house rule is no sleepovers, that’s what they mean. You’re tying to use your pregnancy and a snowstorm to justify your actions. He’s upset and frustrated? Then he needs to get y’all a place of your own. It just sounds like you need to limit your time over there. If you know it’s getting late, you need to go home. If you know it’s going to snow, stay home. You can’t try to justify something that goes against their house rules because you want to use the pregnant card. No ma’am, that’s not the way things work.

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As much as you’re hoping for advice oh how to change their mind. They won’t. It’s their house their rules.

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Their house, their rules. It's not worth your time to try to convince them to change their mind. You guys are better off spending your time finding your own place and getting ready for your baby.

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My exs family was like this I only slept over there twice the whole relationship and we slept in different areas of the house. I was 26 maybe 27 I can’t remember. I kind of thought it was funny but at the same time wanted to respect them and their rules. It definitely sucks especially since you are pregnant but I think if you are already thinking about getting your own place together there’s no reason to rock the boat with his parents. Some people are just old school unfortunately.

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You're not wrong to feel annoyed, but it is their house and their rules. I agree with your thoughts on staying out of the conversation. Let your boyfriend have this talk, and be willing to accept how it goes. I don't think they'll change their minds. Best of luck finding a new place to stay and I wish you a healthy pregnancy :)

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Congratulations on the pregnancy momma! Unfortunately doesn’t sound like they’ll change their minds but I also think it’s odd they won’t let a 24 year sleep over. But it’s great he’s able to sleep at your house 💖

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Their house their rules

Am I wrong to feel this way?

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